Getting a Coaching Session Back on Track (87)

Here are some ways to get back on track when your coaching session has lost its way. Highlights * Lack of resonance can signal disconnect and that things are off track * Speaking to what’s happening for you * Locating sensations or feelings in your body * Being with silence * Asking the client what they need * Getting curious about what “is” * Trying to “think” your way to a better place usually doesn’t work very well * Listening instead to a certain part of your body often works better * Poorly formed topics can lead to lack of resonance * Is there a way to clarify what is seeking to be known or the desired outcome? * The value of venting or an emotional dump * Asking a particular body part to inform you * Prompts * What would you like to be different by the end of our time? * What would you like to be new by the end of our conversation? * What meaning are you assigning to how this is going? * Gremlins and saboteurs can throw things off track * Sometimes they like to turn on the fog machine * The land of “I don’t know” * What story or judgements are you telling yourself about how the session is going? * Ways to break out of a particular state (during or after a session) * Meditation * Jump up and down * Stand up * Move outside * Change rooms/geography * Exercise * Hydrate * Journal * “The story I’m telling myself is …” * “The story I could tell myself instead is …” * Capture what worked or didn’t * Co-Active Coaching: The proven framework for transformative conversations at work and in life by Karen Kimsey-House, Henry Kimsey-House, Phillip Sandhal, and Laura Whitworth * The book is okay (I read and studied from an older edition–I can’t speak to the latest one) * The in-person Co-Active training is life-changing * Use an unsatisfying session as motivation to learn more or go back to your training * Humans are involved * The key to success is restarting Credits * Hallon by Christian Bjoerklund * Cold Funk by Kevin MacLeod * Original photo source All songs licensed under Creative Commons